I have never been away with my son on our own, I had irish twins ( just 16 months between my two children) ! So the first years were a blur of nappies and sleepless nights.
There are some great advantages to having them so close but one of the downfalls is that I never seem to have peace and quiet to really focus on one and with Archie now seven, he is quickly turning into a little man and I just felt we needed some time on our own.
With all the activities, school, my work and a sibling there is not much room for ‘real’ conversations.
So with a week in difference in their school holidays, I decided to head away early, yes I felt guilty for leaving Luella but it just felt like the right time.
It has been such a special week, I feel we have forged a different kind of relationship, one not bound up with me telling him off or just going through the motions of the daily grind of the school run.
I feel that as we have no timetable, we are more relaxed and the conversation just flows. I no longer feel like the baddie, confiscating the iPad and herding my son from school to swimming to homework.
He has opened up, I am sure you all have it you ask you kids what have they done at school and you get the monosyllabic , cannot remember or where is my snack retort!!
I have also discovered how similar we are, as I am not distracted, we both love to exercise , he has been cruising the promonanade on his scooter with me in tow. It has been great to just chill and relax together.
He also love to go out and we have not taken the iPad, once, we have talked and talked and we have loved every minute. I was worried back in London that I had been replaced by Mindcraft but I have been as guilty as him as I use the iPad when it suits me and kids just don’t, get it when we chop and change the rules.
I think he also sees me in a different light, not as grumpy, engrossed in a book instead of head down at my computer.
This was a really balance, he got to scoot at break neck speed along the promanade, bungie jump and try zip wiring and I got to do some shopping and reading. It was all so natural a give and take
We even got to see the Easter Procession in Marbella, it moved both of us.
So even if it is a day trip , do it get away and make it a priority, I know it is not easy but I guarantee you will remind you why you wanted kids all those years ago.
Wishing you all a lovely Easter break!